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OldFartUser is Offline

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04/10/2008 12:45 PM  
I have spent more than the better years of my soggy life living as a bachelor. I've enjoyed most of it, but I think that, now that Im in my 60s, it's time to go ahead and grow old with someone. Old age should be rearing it's ugly head here in the next 25 years or so, so I had better start looking right?

Aside from a few battle marks Im still in good form - while I may not be trying out for Dancing with the Decrepit anytime soon, I think I would be up for a good game of Mahjong and some Scotch. Other than the births of several neices and nefews I havent really been social for a while. Im not much for mingling with the half-my-agers, but neither am i into the oxygen machine and presigned tombstone crowd. Other than hire a night nurse just for the fun of it, what is there to do?
MonicaUser is Offline

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04/10/2008 1:01 PM  
Hahaha....I completely understand your situation.

Although I may very well be one of those "half-your-agers," I know what you're going through because of my own mother. My father passed away unexpectantly almost 4 years ago and it has really taken a toll on my mother.

My parents were not only very much in love, but also very good friends. My father had had a routine operation and came home. Mom felt that, even though she worked about 30 hours a week, Dad would be fine alone during the day until she got home from work to take cake of him. Unexpectedly, he developed complications that went unnoticed for too long. Dad hated to complain and he felt guilty for the "added burden" of caring for him while working taking care of the house and so on. He wouldn't tell her what was wrong, and by the time he did, things had escalated to the point of no return.

Now that my mother has been "recovering" for the past 3.5 years or so, she has realized that feels like there's more life to be lived. She does have some medical issues of her own -- just recently diagnosed with diabetes, but she's learning how to address them. (I came here looking for some help from her -- we learned after what happened to Dad)

She wants to find a social network for people like herself -- stuck in between life of the young and being an "old fart."

Hopefully, we'll get her back in good help with nutrician counseling, and some other help she needs, and she'll be able to live out her remaining years having more fun. Being a widow doesn't have to be a "death sentence" on the fun parts of elderly life.

Thanks for your post, Old Fart. It was very refreshing!!
Lilly79User is Offline

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04/10/2008 2:14 PM  
Heh, fun thread.

I was looking for a place to post about MY mom (sorry, im a half your ager too). She's in her 80s but still has 25 year to go before old age hits her.

I've been trying to figure out what to do with a parent who ISNT sick with anything. I could get her a companion just to hang Out with her during the day.... I'd love to have her move in with me, but i work 10 hours a day - AND she's still active enough to be a pain in the butt (that's why i love her though) - it's like the terrible twos, they're still cute but MAN now they're walking, you know?

Actually Old Fart, I dont suppose you live anywhere near Chicago, maybe you guys could go skydiving together or something. Minus a few battle wounds of her own (aka, raising my younger brother), she's no worse for wear either. I should warn you though, she'll certainly test your youth card - I swear this woman has nine lives. If she wasnt my own mother i dont think I would belive she exists. I dont think she's ever had so much as a cold. Her CAREgiver would probably pass before she would.... The incarnation of the Rock of Gibraltar.

anyway, what do i do with a HEALTHY old bat?
ComfortKeepersUser is Offline

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09/16/2008 10:05 AM  
Look into your community. There are several avenues that provide social opportunities for the seniors! We are in Covington, LA. If you are in my area, let me know so I can share my information with you.
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